Growing Pains

Growing Pains

Our oldest son, Derek, was 10 years old when I started filling the mom role for him. Dave and his first wife had been divorced for over a year and apart for nearly two, and Dave had full-time physical custody of the kids. The kids rarely saw their “real” mom. I filled...
Finding Joy in Stepparenting

Finding Joy in Stepparenting

Getting Real with Shadra Bruce You don’t have to be a masochist to make a good stepparent. While it’s true that step parenting includes some painful moments, it is possible to enjoy it. As a stepmom of three for more than a decade, I can honestly say that...
Make the Right Choices for the Kids Sake

Make the Right Choices for the Kids Sake

Cinderella probably had the most famous stepmother of all time. Wicked and cruel, she did everything she could to keep Cinderella from marrying the handsome prince and living happily ever after. Why Cinderella’s father married her in the first place is something...
Not So Wicked, Really

Not So Wicked, Really

Getting Real With Shadra Bruce I am a step mom.  I “stepped” into an already-formed family, with children who already had a mother, albeit an absent one. I was only 15 years old and in high school when Derek, my oldest stepson, was born in Germany to...
Grieving

Grieving

Two years ago, my family and I loaded up a big moving truck, packed our van with suitcases, snacks, and maps, and headed from Boise, Idaho to Bath, New York. It was the second time we’d made the trip. Dave and I met and married in Boise. Our son was born there....