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Effects of Divorce

It is so sad to see how deeply and far reaching the affects of divorce can be for children. It is not just their own parent’s divorce that they have to deal with but sometimes the divorce of friend’s parents and other people that are involved in children’s lives. These changes can be difficult situations for them to work through.

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When In Doubt, Bite Your Tongue

My daughter Kira is 20. By the time I was her age, I had been married for over a year, after walking away from my full-ride scholarship to Washington State University in order to move home and play house with a man no more mature than I was. We were doomed from the start, particularly given our different family backgrounds (he was studying to be a priest when I met him) and our lack of maturity. Often, I’ve been amazed at how different Kira’s life has been from mine. While I know the reason it is different is because...

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Trust is one of the hardest things to build between two people. As hard as trust is to build, it is even harder to rebuild. Once someone has broken the trust that you have placed in them the process of rebuilding, and allowing yourself to be vulnerable enough to trust them again, is a long hard road that requires a lot of persistence and patience.

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Do You Choose To Be Frugal?

Getting Real With Shadra Bruce Saving money. Stretching the budget. Doing more with less. Recession. Unemployment. It doesn’t matter what you call it, more people are learning how to live with less money. It’s what everyone is talking about. In ways, my husband and I are lucky. We haven’t ever made enough money to do a lot of investing in the stock market, so when it plummeted, we weren’t affected. We don’t have full-time jobs to lose, so when the layoffs and business closures started happening, we weren’t worried about getting pink slips. In fact, the recession has had...

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Guilt, a State of Being

Do you feel guilty as a mom? I do. I feel guilty for spending too much time working and not enough time with my kids. I feel guilty when I’m too tired to engage with my kids and would just rather sneak out onto the front porch with a glass of wine (or, if it was a really bad day, a lemon drop martini, thank you very much). I feel guilty about whether or not I’m making the right decisions about how I’m raising my kids. How do you manage guilt? I often turn to my sister, confide in...

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