Finding the right relationship after you get divorced is not an easy undertaking. For some, it might not be the right idea for quite some time. I really enjoyed my single time after I got divorced. I married so young that I had never really experienced living on my own. But then, I found myself again longing for marriage and the “family” life. I tried to make it work and happen in a couple of places where it never would have and thankfully didn’t. When I became clear with myself the qualities that I wanted in a partner and the things that were really important to me is when I found my awesome husband. My biggest piece of advice would be not to settle. You have to know what the qualities are that you want and won’t do without and then don’t make any exceptions or excuses. Don’t try to force something that isn’t there!

When I met my husband everything just fit. We had many of the same ideas about what it means to be in a relationship. We both wanted to be with each other every waking moment. He answered the phone every time I called. There was never a question of where he was, or who he was with, or what he was doing. This was really important to me considering we were living in different states at the time. Trust was definitely at the top of my list of qualities that I wanted in a partner.

When it is right you will know. I learned that waiting for what is right is so worth it! Don’t put yourself on some sort of timeline. One of the most important things you can do is to be clear with yourself as to what kind of person and qualities you are looking for so you can be clear with the people that you see. Having this kind of clarity will encourage the confidence that you need in yourself to recognize when something isn’t right and then give yourself the permission to move on!