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You Can’t Steal My Daughters Body Image

Getting Real With Jana Jeffery

When my oldest daughter was 10 years old, she turned to me one day and while pinching her little tummy she says, “Mom, I need to lose weight. I’m getting fat.” I stopped mid-stride and said to her, “You are not fat. Not at all. Why do you think that?” Her reasons were shocking and simple: most everyone she sees in ads and on TV, her idols, they don’t look like her. At least she doesn’t think so.

When I took her in to get her fitted for a bra, she stared at the lingerie models at the entrance of the store and actually said, “I’ll never look like that.” It’s such a devastation to see your daughter critique and doubt herself. It’s as if all the years spent building up her self-confidence and making sure she knew she was beautiful from the inside out went up in smoke, in less than 30 seconds.

A few years after Dove launched their Real Beauty campaign, we watched the videos and talked about how the women she aspired to be like weren’t what she thought they were; that they were marvels of modern technology via the steady hand and crafty photoshopping skills of another human being. She was intrigued by the process and began looking at the ads in magazines, on billboards, and websites a little differently. Dove started the conversation for millions of women, and my baby girl was listening.

So, when Aerie, American Eagle Outfitters lingerie and underwear brand, took to the airwaves, TV, broadcast and social with their #AerieReal campaign, we dived back into the conversation. She loves how she can see moles, blemishes, acne, and not-so-perfect tummies. And I do too, because “the real you is sexy.” Not that she needs to be thinking about sexy at age 12, but you know what I mean.

It’s time, as moms, as women, as human beings that we get real and show our preference for reality over Photoshop with our buying power. As E! News Anchor, Giuliana Rancic says, “We have to see more of that!”

3 replies on “You Can’t Steal My Daughters Body Image”

[…] Head on over to MomsGreatReal for my latest post on the #AerieReal campaign from American Eagle Outfitters sister brand, Aerie. […]

I don’t have children, but I don’t think this conversation needs to be limited to children, either. I think women should be having this conversation with each other. Even today, when I look at catalogs with clothes in “my size,” I never took into consideration how MUCH photoshopping had been done. I mean – I know what my body looks like even in my best lingerie… those plus sized models always look like they’ve been ironed in some fashion, even tho they’ve got curves. I’d rather see real than some graphic artist’s version of what it’s acceptable for a curvy girl to look like. 🙂

[…] Cameron Russell’s vulnerable TED Talk  on being a model, Jana Jeffery’s post on body image – they all raise interesting points about what we surround ourselves with. I do question how long […]

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