Getting Real with Tammy Torres
They say “If there is a Will, there is a Way” or is it, “If you have a Way to Live, you won’t need to write a Will?” We all need “Will”! Will Power, Will To Live, Will to Pass On….
At my doctor’s appointment yesterday, the nurse asked, “Do you have a living will?”
I responded “No, should I”?
Thinking to myself, 47 and single, why do I need will? I live with my mom, own no property, and am basically starting over in life. Besides wills are for old people with money, right?
Do I Need a Living Will?
Probably! My kids could take care of me, but after seeing my aunt Bonnie have a stroke and my cousin Wendi become her mom’s primary caregiver at the age of 35 for 10 years, Wendi was worn out and an emotional mess. I don’t want that for my kids. Wendi would do it again in a minute, but it took a toll on her own family (RIP aunt Bonnie). I give kudos for the trials caregivers go through. My mom would take care of me, but I take care of her. Allen already supports me daily and would fill in a heartbeat. But what if something happens to them? This leaves me feeling a little behind the eight ball on my life choices.
Who is going to make decisions if I am sick or dying?
I am. Now, tomorrow and at the end
Will power back to make positive life changes: mentally, physical and psychological, gives me hope. A life of change, chaos, marriages, kids, divorce and addiction for years left me in “Go Dog Go” status, but now I’m focusing on me! This journey has put me in a mindset to chip away demons of an emotional past and stop hiding behind my fat wall. With the help and moral support of my amazing man and chef, Allen, my family and friends, I have achieved losing 25 pounds, dropped my triglycerides 400 points and glucose is back under 100 in five months. I’m motivated to eat when I am hungry, drink LOTS of water (which I don’t care for) and exercise is underway. No more sabotaging or emotional eating, but I do have special event day where I just can’t avoid eating delicious crap, like on my mom’s birthday at the Chinese Buffet! Deep fried, sugared-up everything!
Now, I am back to my food basics daily and would like to share my basic Keto Day:
Breakfast: Allen’s PB Cocoa Shake and 2 hard boiled eggs
Snack: 1.5 oz (25 slices) of pepperoni
Lunch: Tuna/Chicken Salad
Snack: Green Veggies (Broccoli, Cauliflower, Zucchini, Celery w/Low Carb Ranch in a packet
Dinner: 3 oz. of Protein with Salad and Veggies
Dessert: 2 tbsp. Peanut Butter or Sugar Free Jello w/ low carb Cool Whip
Evening Snack: Pork Rines, or I have added 1 piece of sugar free candy with no guilt
Being a caregiver myself, personally and professionally, I watch families struggle with loved ones pass on to their next journey. Some are organized with wills, others scatter last minute for a POA or DNR. We are not always totally prepared for what life brings but I do know I’m back to having a will – A Will to Live for Me!