I never spent much time as a single person. I was involved in a serious but rather complicated relationship during high school, went off to college and almost immediately met my first husband to whom I was engaged within two weeks of meeting and married to for seven years, and I wasn’t quite legally divorced when I met Dave and became a permanent fixture in his life – a place I’ve happily stayed the last 15 years.
But I do know a little something about the importance of knowing yourself in order to have a successful relationship – a gift I was given in the process of building my relationship with my husband and children but what often works a lot better if you take the time when you’re single and independent to do. I’m a bit of a late bloomer.
If you are single, you want a serious relationship (a key factor in success) and you have been having trouble finding a life partner, it’s time to stop looking.
Not forever.
And if you’re not looking for your soulmate but you feel there is something missing in your life, stop looking.
Again, not forever.
Just long enough to take the time to get to know yourself better. Take the time to read, meditate, and gain insight into your needs and wants in life, embracing yourself for the awesome person you are. It’s only when you know who you are that you can get what you want – in love and in life.