I’m a stepmom and have been a stepparenting and blended family specialist for so long that I tend to talk about and think about everything from a stepmom’s perspective. I suppose that’s only natural; I write what I know, what I experience. However, having seen what my sister goes through with her children’s stepmother, along with a recent extended email conversation I had with a biological mom about stepparenting and her struggles with sharing her children with the new stepmom, I realized that I was perhaps limiting my viewpoint too much.

Imagine giving birth to a child or children and experiencing those joyous days of building a family. If you’re a mom in any capacity, you’ll understand that once a child enters your heart (through birth, adoption, marriage, or any other way) something inside you is changed forever. You can’t go a minute without thinking of the child, you worry over everything, you spend more time focused on the child than on yourself, and you don’t even notice the sacrifice.

This is an excerpt from Shadra’ s book, Stories From a StepMom, available on Amazon Kindle. Read more or request a review copy.