Unfortunately, no matter how hard we try, our blended families may not always blend the way we’d like them to. It is extremely difficult to take so many varied personalities and throw them together – sometimes for only a few days at a time – and expect them to click perfectly, but you can make a difference by always treating the children with respect, never expecting more from them than they are capable of giving, and by not using them as pawns in an emotional adult game of manipulation.
While adult stepchildren are a different matter altogether, minor children need to be handled – literally – with kid gloves. Biological parents should communicate with their children about impending changes in their lives, future stepparents should be introduced slowly and cautiously. Stepparents should be exceedingly patient, not forcing acceptance before the children are ready. Keep your expectations minimal.
In the beginning, we were all strangers living in the same house. We shared meals, went to movies together, and had one thing in common: we all loved him. Would it be enough? Would this one man who brought us all together be the glue that turned us from strangers living as roommates to a family?
This is an excerpt from Shadra’ s book, Stories From a StepMom, available on Amazon Kindle. Read more or request a review copy.